hi all
well since my last post i thought things were going as well with phone guy as they could for that kind of situation. but for the past week i haven't heard from him at all. i missed his call the last time he called me which was last weekend and he was a little drunk at the time but his voicemail was normal and didn't hint at anything being wrong. and he sent me a message the day after so i know he at least wasn't involved in some accident that night.
now though it's been almost a week and i've had no contact from him. ya ya i know you guys were all skeptical about this situation to begin with, but i don't think he'd cut off all contact like that. i just can't believe he'd be so busy in the last week not to give me a call or send a message when we've been talking or at least in touch nearly every day for the past two months. the scenarios of what has been going on with him have been running through my head, from the more innocuous ones to the more morbid ones.
i don't know how worried i should be about this. unfortunately other than by phone i have no other way to contact him. we never exchanged emails or facebook or any online type thing. i do know where he works and what he does so with some sleuthing i could devise a means to contact him there. although the problem there is i don't know his last name---it never really occurred to me to need to know that about him. when do you ask somebody their last name? that's something i never actively try to find out about another guy but maybe i should start doing that...
i don't know how crazy stalker i should be about this. by phone i think i can only wait for him to contact me but i'm seriously wondering if i should try to find out his work contact info if i don't hear from him in another week or so. if he's lost interest in me that's fine but i at least want to know he's safe. there are certain things that have been going on in his personal life that just give me this nagging feeling something sinister has happened.
this whole thing is and has been insane i know. yall are probably shaking your head, but for me--and i think him also--this has been very real and i just don't think he'd leave me hanging like this.
I get it -- you are all conflicted what this silence means. Everyone has been in that situation one time or another. You want him to call but you don't want it to be an obligation or expectation. If you are truly concerned about him, why not call him? Why does he have to call you in this situation? If things have cooled, you want to know. If something has happened, you want to know too. Just call him already. Say you haven't heard from him in awhile and just wanted to check in to see how he is doing.
ReplyDeleteIf things have cooled, perhaps that will be the jolt to get him to be honest with you rather than stringing you along. As mentioned previously you should try to temper your infatuation with him until you make a face-to-face connection. Right now you have him so high up on pedestal, there's only way to go, and that's down.
The almost daiy contact you had with phone guy in mind, I think it's very rude to ignore you like that. Whatever the reason might be. If he's not interested in you anymore why not tell that. And if something happened to him (like an accident or whatever) he should let you know too, because it's obvious you care about him... and since he left you a message he's not in that bad situation he can't talk anymore.
ReplyDeleteI don't see it written down exactly in your post, but did you try to call him yourself? I suppose you did but he didn't pick up, but if you didn't like Foc said you really should call yourself, even that wasn't the case before... and if the silence goes on, maybe the 'contact his work' scenario isn't that bad. After all, there's no harm in it and you can't lose anything by doing that...
I truly hope you get an answer on your questions, because uncertainty is by far the hardest feeling to bear. Lots of courage to you buddy!
Don't be a twit. Just send a message, phone or e-mail, and say, "hey, I haven't heard from you in a few days. I miss our daily chats. Is everything all right?"
ReplyDeleteIf that goes ignored, then do your sleuthing.
Welcome to gay dating, where people will be all about you one moment and completely over you the next.
ReplyDeleteThis may be a stupid question, but does he follow this blog? If so, I think you've already said all that needs to be said, and the ball is in his court.
ReplyDeleteThings have a way of unfolding exactly as they should, and the unfolding should be effortless.
That's unfortunate to hear. Maybe instead of waiting too much longer, give him a call or send him a text and see if he replies? Though easier said than done, don't try to dwell on it TOO much. If/when he does contact you, ask him for other means of contacting him (or at least a last name, lol).
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